E- I am an advocate for many individuals. I have and will continue to support the wishes of the elderly especially at the end of their life. I currently have a home hospice patient within my homecare company who we have been providing 24/7 care for over the past 2 weeks. She is very much at peace with her situation and is visiting with many friends to let all of them know that she is in a good place mentally and spiritually. As a retired nun she is quite religious and able to verbalize her thoughts very well to her many friends. I have overheard many of their discussions and each one has the clear message to treasure each day.
My hospice patient is so fortunate to be in her own home and maintaining her cognition. She is fully aware of her remaining days on earth and is not asking tons of questions regarding how much longer she has to live. She is so thankful to have a caregiver 24/7 and has let each of us know that every day.
As I left her home yesterday I was thinking about our parents. They can't verbalize the many emotions they are most likely still experiencing. I can't sit down and have a conversation with them like I've been doing with my hospice patient. What I can do is remain present with our parents. Sitting with them and thumbing through a photo album or clothing catalog and just making small talk is quality time with our parents.
I am so blessed to be a part of so many lives that require these different levels of care. I also know that the many caregivers who assist with our parents and my homecare clients feel the same way. I am realizing that compassionate people really aren't that hard to find (which is reassuring in today's world). We come in all shapes and sizes and really value caring for the elderly who are nearing the end.
If you're reading this and know of someone in need of a peaceful exit please spend some time visiting with them. Your visit will be so much appreciated.